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Armelda Simone is divisiontwo's in-house teen advice columnist. New advice is posted daily. Send your questions directly to Armelda at askarmelda@hotmail.com


Dear Armelda, I have this friend from Idaho who is thirteen and is ready to have a baby.  Her parents oppose, and she was wondering if a baby is a lot of work and if she has it will it be someone to love her unconditionally??

Kelly M. from MN


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Dear Kelly, tell your friend that I think thirteen is a great age for a girl to have her first baby. If she has already gotten her period, she shouldn't have any trouble finding an eager stud willing to give her what she wants. I have some numbers of older guys who are willing to travel, if she's interested.
As for her parents opposing this beautiful choice, this is your friend's decision, not her parents'. It is not up to them what she does with her body. Did they clear it with her before they went ahead and conceived her? I didn't think so. Personally, I think there is nothing sadder than a young girl with a barren womb. If she doesn't fill it with a baby, she'll probably fill it with food or drugs or alcohol, and that's just not healthy.
Let me also say this: A baby is a great way to fill a void in a young girl's life. It sounds to me like your friend is looking for someone or something that will love her and doesn't run on four D batteries. A baby will do that, and plus, think of how much money she'll save if she doesn't have to buy batteries all the time.
Raising a baby is really no harder than raising a puppy. Just tell her that she will have to nurse it regularly for the first five years and she'll have to drop it off at her parents' house for a few weeks at a time if she's planning on partying or has other stuff she wants to do.

-Armelda


Dear Armelda,

I'm fourteen years old and I'm wondering how I'll know when it's the right time for sex. My boyfriend is fifteen and we're truly in love. He wants to have sex, but I'm not sure yet, and I don't know if I should just give in, stall, or tell him flat-out no. What do you think?

Jerri P.

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Dear Jerri,
It sounds like your boyfriend really loves you and wouldn't push you into having sex if he thought you weren't ready. I say, just go with it and move the relationship along as fast as he's comfortable with. If you're fourteen, then you've probably already gotten your period, so you should start having sex. You may stall him a bit if you're still worried, but don't take too long, or he might dump you and go out with a different girl.

-Armelda


Dear Armelda,

At school we learned about self-breast examinations in health class, and when I did it to myself at home last night, I felt a lump in my right breast. Could it be cancer? Should I go to a doctor? I'm really scared.

Sarah

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Dear Sarah,
Don't get yourself all worried; stress can cause acne. It's probably nothing. I don't recommend seeing a doctor right away. You should wait a few months and see if it gets any bigger first.

-Armelda


Dear Armelda,

I'm a guy and I've been really into weight lifting for about a year now. The gains have been steady but slow. I was wondering if you know of any legal supplements that can enhance muscle growth and workout performance. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks,
Larry.

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Dear Larry,

Anabolic steroids are legal if prescribed by a physician. I have sent an email to you personally with the URL of an online pharmacy in Laos that can give you a prescription via email within minutes.

-Armelda


Dear Armelda, I've been really depressed lately because my parents are getting a divorce. I would do anything to get them to stay together. Is it possible and is it even worth it?

-Dennis Jonsweich


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Dear Dennis,
It is possible to "trick" your parents into falling back into love. What I recommend is telling each privately that you walked in on the other having sex with one of your neighbors or teachers. This will make them jealous enough that maybe, just maybe, they'll patch things up. But I can't guarantee anything.

-Armelda


Armelda, I can't convince my boyfriend to use a condom, and so every time we have sex I'm terrified of getting pregnant. I'm only 13 and he's 23, so I can't tell my mom about him or that I need birth control, because she'd make me stop seeing him. Is there anything I can do to keep myself from getting pregnant?

C.P.

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Dear C.P.,
If he refuses to wear a condom, you have to take matters into your own hands. Don't try to force him; he sounds like a good catch and if you get too demanding you might lose him. Instead, after you have sex, try douching with something carbonated and sugar-free, like Diet Pepsi or Club Soda. It's a proven fact that you can't get pregnant during the first week after your period, so try to tire him out during this time and maybe he'll lay off a bit for the rest of the month. Also, you can't get pregnant if you don't have an orgasm, so try to think about other things, like homework and TV, while he gets off. Or just read a magazine until he's finished. When it's over, jump up and down for a minute or two to get as much of his sperm out as possible. If none of these suggestions work, tell me and I might be able to come up with a few more.

-Armelda


Amelda I like your colum. You give advice like my friends. But I have a problem that I don't want to talk with them about because its embarasing. My step brother is a couple years older than me, and sometimes he comes into my room at night, and I wake up and he's standing naked by my head and rubing his penis on my face. I usually pretend I'm asleep, turn over and pull the covers up over my head. After a while he leaves. What is he doing and what can I do to make him stop without embarrasing him or getting him in trouble.

Jane Tritton
Ontario, Canada


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Dear Jane,
There's no way of knowing what he's doing, exactly, from what you've told me. Next time it happens, pretend you're sleeping as usual, but don't role over and just let him finish whatever he was doing. That's the only way you'll know for sure. It could be, and probably is, something completely harmless and rational that you just haven't thought of. Write me when you find out.

-Armelda


Dear Armelda,
My friend Erica had a party at her house and I got really drunk and I had sex with her dad in the garage. It's been about three weeks, and my vagina itches and has little red spots all over it. Is this something I should be worried about?

Worried,
Oklahoma

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Dear Worried,
Having red spots on your vagina doesn't sound like a big deal to me. It could be that you're just scratching it too much.

-Armelda


Dear Armelda,
Sometimes when my friend gets drunk at my house, she drives home and I can't talk her out of it. What can I do??? I'm afraid that she's going to get herself killed.

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Ava Ruiz
Texas



Dear Ava,
Statistically, drunk drivers usually end up killing other people, not themselves, so relax a little.

-Armelda


Dear Armelda, I think your advice stinks. You tell people stupid stuff for your own amusement and you're probably getting them hurt. How do you sleep at night?

Richard D. Neinel
Bloomington, Minnesota

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Dear Richard,
I sleep on a big cushy mattress in a nice comfy house that
divisiontwo bought.

-Armelda


Dear Armelda,
I'm a fifteen years old boy and I masturbate a lot. I usually do it into the same shirt, but now it's all crusty and yellowish all over, so I don't want to give it to my mom to wash, and I don't want to throw it in the garbage because my mom usually goes through it when she seperates the recycling. How can I get rid of it? I live in an apartment and I can't start a fire.

Mike

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Dear Mike,
I've sent you my address. Put the shirt in a box, take it down to UPS and send it to me. I'll get rid of it for you. Also, include a picture of yourself, if you can.

-Armelda


Dear Armelda,
I'm a seventeen-year-old guy and I think I might be gay, but how can I be sure?

Dan T.

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Dear Dan,
Try "accidentally" walking in on your dad when he's coming out of the shower and see if you get turned on. Do the same to your mom. Whichever gets you hornier will be your answer. Good luck.

-Armelda


Dear Armelda,
I'm a girl and I have this weird thing where I used to pinch my nipples and it felt really good. Now I've started to stick pins in them. Is this dangerous?

R


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Dear R,
No, fetishes like this are completely normal--everybody has one, it's just that most people don't talk about it. I, myself, can't have an orgasm unless I'm bent over an iMac. In fact, why don't you place an ad on
divisiontwo personals? A lot of perverts frequent our website and I'm sure you could find a bunch of men who'd love to help you out. They probably even have some bigger and sharper things they'll want to stick in your nipples. Good luck!

-Armelda


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